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The Willpower Instinct, Dr. Kelly McGonigal: Do what you actually want

“Self-control,” writes Dr. Kelly McGonigal in Willpower, “is a better predictor of academic success 🎓 than intelligence, a stronger determinant of effective leadership than charisma, and more important for marital bliss đź’• than empathy.” Then again, of course Dr. McGonigal would say something like that – she just can’t help herself. The Willpower Instinct: How […]

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Three tips for learning a foreign language

For most of my life I was woefully monolingual. I struggled through trips to Europe with a lot of pointing and “Parlez-vous Anglais?” My German was inept but earnest, like a kindergartner’s finger-painting stuck to the family fridge. How things have now changed! Around 2013 I learnt about Duolingo and from October of that year […]

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The Hunger

I didn’t realise that I was different. It wasn’t until a few people made observations about my behaviour. Kat said that the way I jogged between houses inspired her to go harder when doorknocking. Simon, a few days after September 7, 2013, called it a “hunger”. It’s something that is perhaps more noticeable now as I […]

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Why progressive voters should vote for the Greens

Tanya Plibersek’s recent call for a binding vote on marriage equality is an example of why progressive voters should vote for the Greens. There are two particular reasons for progressive voters to vote for the Greens. One is: voting for the Greens pulls ALP policy to the left. Simply, the higher the Green vote, the more […]

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A note that reads "hey twit, ever notice how this space fits 2 small cars?? or just one stupid small car that parks inconsiderately"

Assertion: Safely meeting needs

It is hard to assert: to stand up for yourself without encroaching on somebody else’s territory. Even when you assert well, you may encounter defensiveness and hostility. Is it worth it? Well, yes it is. Assertion allows you to get your needs met, while avoiding the pitfalls of submissiveness (in which your needs are neglected) or aggressiveness […]

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“S.”, J. J. Abrams and Doug Dorst. “Ship of Theseus” what.

It’s hard to know where to begin. Let’s start with “V. M. Straka”, a person or persona created by a group of radical authors to publish novels condemning the actions of the cruel elite. Straka, to the extent that he (?) exists, submits a manuscripts for his final work, Ship of Theseus (SOT), to his […]

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Someone says "1+1" the other reflects "2". They love each other.

Reflective Listening: the path to understanding

Listening is a search to find the treasure of the true person, as revealed verbally and nonverbally. (John Powell) In my last post here, I wrote about roadblocks to communication. When listening, “advising” or “reassuring” can undermine good communication and disservice the listener. Having described what not to do, I’ll now draw again upon Bolton’s People […]

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a cartoon of a car being blocked by hurdles reading "advising" and "reassuring"

Two roadblocks to communication: advising and reassuring

People Skills is a book by Robert Bolton in which he meticulously details different tools, attitudes and frameworks to get better at communication. The first chapter of the book deals with ‘roadblocks’ to communication [1]: particular behaviours that endanger understanding. Some of these, like ‘criticising’ and ‘ordering’ are pretty obvious. Some are less so, and […]

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Protected: Christmas Letter 2014

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the blue house from faraday street

Melbourne again

I cycle through the streets like I’m sorting through memories, trying to remember who I was, see my young face again. Again I’m on a bicycle, riding on Canning Street. Again I’m on Brunswick Street, passing by the Coles, jaywalking. Today I went to my old home. A gorgeous blue block in the middle of […]

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