Tag Archives: listening
Someone says "1+1" the other reflects "2". They love each other.

Reflective Listening: the path to understanding

Listening is a search to find the treasure of the true person, as revealed verbally and nonverbally. (John Powell) In my last post here, I wrote about roadblocks to communication. When listening, “advising” or “reassuring” can undermine good communication and disservice the listener. Having described what not to do, I’ll now draw again upon Bolton’s People […]

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a cartoon of a car being blocked by hurdles reading "advising" and "reassuring"

Two roadblocks to communication: advising and reassuring

People Skills is a book by Robert Bolton in which he meticulously details different tools, attitudes and frameworks to get better at communication. The first chapter of the book deals with ‘roadblocks’ to communication [1]: particular behaviours that endanger understanding. Some of these, like ‘criticising’ and ‘ordering’ are pretty obvious. Some are less so, and […]

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Opened borders, closed minds

It alarms me how rapidly people who want to be on the side of open-mindedness and tolerance will close their mind to, and judge, people who have different, less tolerant views. People who want harsher treatment of asylum seekers are ‘rednecks’, are racist, are, essentially, bad people. Someone opposed to ending marriage discrimination is homophobic […]

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the cover image of katrina shields' "in the tiger's mouth"

“In the Tiger’s Mouth”, Katrina Shields: Activism, Self-Awareness, Self Care

Katrina Shield’s In The Tiger’s mouth is a book I had been waiting for an opportunity to read. That opportunity came one Friday when I lunched with Holly Hammond, facilitator and director of Plan to Win (and the recently-launched blog ‘Plan to Thrive’). Appropriately, she had two copies and was able to lend (understandably, she […]

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